i've sent this list to friends who have asked for it, and i've always meant to post it here for memory. especially now, so we can see what we like this time versus last time. i feel like i should call it "our top baby mateo things" though, since every little one is so different. mateo, for example, was never given bottles or pacifiers, and he never really spit up so we didn't have to use some of the classics that people rely on. and he's always been a pretty great sleeper.
so, on with it, here is our list (in no particular order) :
- a nipple shield - without this he wasn't able to nurse, so i will be forever thankful for it. in his first days, we tried everything and he couldn't latch on, but during our last hour at the hospital the lactation consultant gave me a shield and it made all the difference.
- the happiest baby on the block - we watched this short dvd the 1st week of his life and it was incredible! basically this man walks into a room of crying babies and shushes them one by one, using ancient techniques that we all may know, but don't remember. they worked wonders for us. we are planning on watching the same library copy again this week for a refresher.
- the baby book by dr. sears - i was reading general baby care books until i came across this one at the library. i could not put it down and remember reading luke bits of it out loud on our road trip to dc because i was so excited. it basically validated many of my instincts that hadn't been validated anywhere - like cosleeping and attachment parenting. i am so happy to have found it. also: mothering magazine helped with this too, but is no longer publishing. :(
- babywearing - we tried so many carriers (ring sling, regular sling, moby wrap, mei tai, and ergo) thanks to lansing babywearer's, where you can rent them and get help and advice on each one. i loved each and every one we tried for different purposes and ages and sizes of mateo. we rarely used a stroller during his 1st year.
- community/mama groups - i wasn't involved at all before mateo but something in me changed with his birth and i felt an incredible need to connect with other women. i think i would have gone crazy without knowing anyone. so we joined and joined, and also got involved in other ways and this may have been the single most important thing to me. we've regularly had one social thing planned for 4 of the 5 days of the week.
- snot sucker - it just works.
- this swing - we were sure before having a baby that we wouldn't need all the baby contraptions people told us we needed, and we didn't want them cluttering the house. then some generous friends dropped by this very swing to let us borrow as a surprise and we jokingly called it "the torture chamber" because it was so big and gaudy and too much. two directions of swinging, lights, music, moving fish!?! i told luke our baby would not be using it... and then mateo came and at one point i was desperate and it turns out he loves the giant fishy swing and sometimes it was the only thing to calm him down. i am so thankful to our friends, and so thankful to this ugly swing. we found the exact same one at a mom sale last month for $20. :)
- the business of being born - we saw this early on (maybe before we were pregnant?) and it opened our eyes to birth culture and the fact that there are so many more options than just going to a hospital and treating pregnancy like a medical condition, rather than a natural part of life.
- these twinkle lights - these lights that our friends sent us were the first thing that mateo would zone out on and fall asleep to when he was first sleeping in his crib. we used them so much that they've burnt out but i am determined to fix and then replace them with the paper boxes for our next little one.
- cosleeping - i feel so blessed that a few weeks before mateo's arrival i picked up a copy of mothering magazine with an article on cosleeping. i didn't know at the time that mothering was the more "natural" parenting magazine. the article opened my eyes to the fact that people and animals have been cosleeping since the beginning of time. a few days after mateo was home with us and i had had no sleep, i gently laid him down next to me and nursed and we both woke up 3 hours later after our longest stretch of sleep yet. i was always aware of him while sleeping. we coslept for 3 months until it seemed like he was able to sleep soundly for long stretches, and moved him into his room seamlessly.
what did i miss? anything major?